The Art Of Losing Isn’t Hard To Master

Because losing is usually the saddest, and goodbye, more often than not, comes with it, we have to learn the art of it. I had a totally different view about losing 16 months ago. But now I'm starting to agree with what Elizabeth Bishop was saying, especially with the way things are going lately. It’s becoming clearer and clearer to me that losing, like anything else, could be learned (how to be dealt with). The more we experience losing, the easier we get through losing itself when another losing opportunity is at the brink of the brim. Series of losses makes my body get used to it, until it becomes a routine, until I realized that losing is a pretty normal phenomenon. We all have a fair share of it. We all have a taste of it. It’s alright to lose once in a while. We can lose so much, but just enough not to reach that point where we have lose ourselves, for a man who gains the world is nothing if he loses himself in the process.

Here are some surely-not-loser hits, accompanied with stories of losing from different points of view.

Welcome To The Black Parade – My Chemical Romance. A few weeks ago, My Chemical Romance announced their decision to part ways. Sure enough, people who once dreamed of joining the black parade are mourning over this news. I would admit I’m an MCR fan to death and seeing yet another legendary door closing is painful. Maybe, MCR is done. But it can never die. As Gerard Way puts it, MCR is not a band, it’s an idea. It will always be alive inside all of us. The black parade isn’t ending. We are not losing a legend. // And though you’re dead and gone, believe me, your memory will carry on

Far Away – Nickelback. Victor Joel Ayson, a UP alumnus and a hiker, is still missing after a solo climb two weeks ago at Mt. Maculot. This is extremely saddening especially now, I mean today, that it's his 27th birthday. May he stand by his words and soon come back. // Just one chance. Just one breath. Just in case there's just one left.

Tuyo Na’ng Damdamin – Silent Sanctuary. The board exam is coming this September but ignoring McMurry, Chang, Atkins, and co. (these are Chem book authors) for the past few months, cancelling dates with my problem sets and other review materials, treating my calculator a mere stranger, all count as bad signs. I’m supposed to be burying myself with these stuff but I don’t have the time, the drive, and the guts. And to make life easy for me, I won’t be taking the boards. Because if I do, I’m heading to a looming pit. At least I’m choosing to lose this early rather than risking for a much greater loss in the near future. // At kahit na anong gawin, di mo na mapilit at madaya, aminin sa sarili mo na wala ka ng mabubuga

I Lost My Head – Gentle Giant. I lost a phone last week. I lost another one just a few hours ago. I lost all my important people’s contact details. I’m having this feeling that this would equate to losing people in my life too. I’m a bit lost more than I presume. // I lost my head, It wasn’t easy

Bad Day – Daniel Powter. Now I’m down to the hardest part, the hardest to admit: I hate my job. And I should have never accepted it in the first place. This job is the last drink I should have never drunk. I’m dead tired. I’m exhausted doing things without a heart. I wish to rest this case soon. Nine months’ already down, and three months’ still seem too long. // Where is the passion when you need it the most?

Losing comes in many shapes. And it comes to all of us. Each people have their own battles they’re fighting for. From these battles, we gain some, we lose some. It is in gaining that we see things we like but it is in losing that we see things we really love. The more things I lost, the more I realize which things really matters, the more I feel my life matters.

Now where the hell is the point of this post.. I guess it’s lost, too.